HAPPY NEW HEALTHY, PEACEFUL, PROSPEROUS YEAR everyone!
it's a new year.
this fact alone, i find extremely exciting. it is like a new outfit, new pretty underwear (a personal favorite:-), a new car, new home, new love...
...each new year i tend to spend a great deal of time reflecting.
what did i learn last year?
what did i hold to be the gospel truth before time/wisdom/experience wrenched it away?
who have i allowed in my life that truly has no place moving forward, if my movement is to be powerful?
aaahhh...introspection, reflection, meditation.
frankly, sometimes i find it more pleasant than other times!
here's the thing. i have a post that has been banging around in me for awhile now. each time i sit down to write it, i feel blocked. it is as if writing it makes it real. sometimes, it is very difficult to get real i find.
everything i have ever written, i have believed with every fiber of my being. my paradigm shift born of new year reflections, introspection, and mediation is causing great discomfort.
i have strengthened my resolve to pull it in, reach a place of acceptance, say what needs to be said, and most importantly DO what needs to be done.
all in the interest of creating my best year yet and...
...SELF LOVE~SELF ACCEPTANCE~SELF RESPECT
Sunday, January 4, 2009
Wednesday, November 5, 2008
putting it in perspective
i am tickled pink! long ago, i consoled myself with this possible upside. there is always an upside!
at the very least, black males and others will be hard pressed to "joke" about black women in the white house and as impediments to success now.
as the clowns "joked" about Michelle in the white house, when black, i allowed myself to excuse them. i found empathy and compassion in the realization that their poor little enslaved minds just would not allow them to see in their minds eye what they've not been shown consistently in the media---many examples of regal, educated, classy black women. in their little minds we don't exist, much less deserve to be featured in prominent places. especially not those that look undeniably, no need to stare black. (yes! i said it, it is true! i don't believe Mr. President elect would wear such a title had he been born to two parents that looked like his father in hue and features. but that's just me and beside the point.)
i am tickled pink that there will be a black woman and two little black girls in the white house!
i pray that his Oness does a great job; otherwise i fully expect for it to somehow be widely accepted as Michelle's fault. sound familiar?
in the interim, i will enjoy the images and hope that Michelle brings as many black women with her as she can. black wardrobe stylist, black hairstylist, black chef, black secretaries, black assistants...
OMG, i just described a nightmare for some americans! lol!
self love~ self acceptance~ self respect
if i were a boy...a.k.a. male privilege
i must confess, i have found Beyonce hard to stomach at times; in fact most of the time.
the sole reason for this assertion is that i cannot listen to music and tune out the messages. i cannot watch videos and discount the power of images. i listen to lyrics/words. i pay attention to images. i respect the truth that words are powerful and can give both life and death to the speaker as well as the listener. i honor the fact that a positive image can build you up and a negative one can tear you down---if you allow it. additionally, i have trained myself to pay attention. so it has been impossible to tune out the bootylicious, freak 'em dress, upgrade, sugar momma lyrics/images that she has jiggled, bounced, and gyrated her way through. i have felt neither entertained, amused, nor proud. being decidedly heterosexual, i haven't felt titillated either; there has been no appeal whatsoever.
i haven't really bothered to address this issue before. it has been my experience that when women make any effort to hold other women accountable for their words and/or (mis)behavior, we are oftentimes met with accusations of "hating" or "jealousy". so i had very politely turned her off and saved myself from the pollution. when she married the woman beater, who has 99 problems but a b ain't one---it occurred to me that she would have no choice but to get a clue in due time.
so i was sitting on the parking lot, a.k.a. the 101 freeway:-) when i heard this song...
...and it made me think. thanks at last Beyonce.
i thought again about the fact that we hold great power ladies. we frequently choose to foolishly relinquish it. we possess the power to change our worlds. we must strive to become better wiser women each day. in addition to doing this for ourselves, we must take the time to help a girl get these nuggets as well---it just may save her life.
you know, now that i think of it, Joe sang about the same thing..
ok. that was for me. i told you i was decidedly heterosexual:-)
back to my original point...
...reciprocity saves lives and time. check for reciprocity. demand reciprocity. settle for nothing less than reciprocity in our lives. reciprocity is the best way to neutralize male privilege, i think. what do you think? share if you feel so inclined.
SELF LOVE~SELF ACCEPTANCE~SELF RESPECT
the sole reason for this assertion is that i cannot listen to music and tune out the messages. i cannot watch videos and discount the power of images. i listen to lyrics/words. i pay attention to images. i respect the truth that words are powerful and can give both life and death to the speaker as well as the listener. i honor the fact that a positive image can build you up and a negative one can tear you down---if you allow it. additionally, i have trained myself to pay attention. so it has been impossible to tune out the bootylicious, freak 'em dress, upgrade, sugar momma lyrics/images that she has jiggled, bounced, and gyrated her way through. i have felt neither entertained, amused, nor proud. being decidedly heterosexual, i haven't felt titillated either; there has been no appeal whatsoever.
i haven't really bothered to address this issue before. it has been my experience that when women make any effort to hold other women accountable for their words and/or (mis)behavior, we are oftentimes met with accusations of "hating" or "jealousy". so i had very politely turned her off and saved myself from the pollution. when she married the woman beater, who has 99 problems but a b ain't one---it occurred to me that she would have no choice but to get a clue in due time.
so i was sitting on the parking lot, a.k.a. the 101 freeway:-) when i heard this song...
...and it made me think. thanks at last Beyonce.
i thought again about the fact that we hold great power ladies. we frequently choose to foolishly relinquish it. we possess the power to change our worlds. we must strive to become better wiser women each day. in addition to doing this for ourselves, we must take the time to help a girl get these nuggets as well---it just may save her life.
you know, now that i think of it, Joe sang about the same thing..
ok. that was for me. i told you i was decidedly heterosexual:-)
back to my original point...
...reciprocity saves lives and time. check for reciprocity. demand reciprocity. settle for nothing less than reciprocity in our lives. reciprocity is the best way to neutralize male privilege, i think. what do you think? share if you feel so inclined.
SELF LOVE~SELF ACCEPTANCE~SELF RESPECT
Sunday, October 26, 2008
wrestling with the block
writer's block.
it presently has a hold on me.
bear with me as i wrestle with the block.
in the meantime, i will continue to frequent those places that give me food for thought; in addition to helping me grow.
blessings all...
self love~self acceptance~self respect
Sunday, September 7, 2008
the wait is over!!! time for the happy dance!!!
i am so happy and excited that i had to post the announcement.
Truth, i know, i know, i am supposed to be tagged cooperatively. my cooperation was to be my next post, however my ally is blogging and props are in order! i am sure you understand. i will honor my word this week. thanks for your patience.
folks check out Khadija's blog:
she is an amazingly smart, gifted, courageous woman. all that are able to hear her voice will be blessed in some way. i know that i am.
YAY!!! Khadija's blog is up!!! the wait is over!
self love~ self acceptance~ self respect
Monday, September 1, 2008
let ALL that have an ear...hear!
so, this is a comment that was left on another post. i felt it worthy of center stage.
i pray that all that have an ear, hear. this message is what God loves...the truth!
i have been busy in preparation, i pray that more will do the same. NOW is the time!
"FP,
I hope you don't mind me borrowing your forum for a moment for an urgent public service announcement. This has been on my mind a lot lately, and I'm feeling more alarmed with each day that passes.
WARNING TO ALL BLACK FOLKS:
If you haven't already done so, I strongly urge you to get a 2nd source of income immediately!
Here's why:
In the midst of our mass Obama-mania, most of us really haven't thought through the repercussions of having him in the White House.
1-If Sen. Obama is elected, the days of crying to White folks about racism will be OVER. They won't entertain that anymore. After all, racism can't be that bad if there's been a Black (sort-of) president elected. This is a problem because we don't have a collective Plan B. Our entire strategy (such as it is) revolves around protesting racism.
2-I firmly believe that this economy is going to crash. I also believe that the powers that be have been mitigating & concealing the full extent of the damage to protect George W's image. They won't extend the same favor to Obama if he's elected. In fact, they'll be sure to let all of the rotten economic eggs drop to the ground on his watch. [To make sure that he gets the blame for the past 8 years of fiscal mismanagement & crime.] This is why everybody needs a side hustle. Right now. Being totally dependent on a single (more fragile than you realize) paycheck is courting disaster.
3-When the full extent of the economic disaster hits, help WON'T be on the way from an Obama Administration. At least, not for Black folks. A Pres. Obama will feel the need to prove to White folks that he's not partial to Black people or our problems. Given our hypnotic support for him, the masses of Black folks won't even scream out while he ignores us. Our elders will quietly start eating dog food instead of groceries. They'll quietly go without medication that they can no longer afford. Many of us will quietly go without heat during the winter. And they'll want YOU to suffer quietly too! After all, "we" gotta support the "brother." You won't get any support from other Black folks for crying out (or making any noise at all) during an Obama Administration. Don't let this scenario happen to you or your loved ones. Get ready. Get prepared. ASAP.
Peace, blessings and solidarity."
i pray that all that have an ear, hear. this message is what God loves...the truth!
i have been busy in preparation, i pray that more will do the same. NOW is the time!
"FP,
I hope you don't mind me borrowing your forum for a moment for an urgent public service announcement. This has been on my mind a lot lately, and I'm feeling more alarmed with each day that passes.
WARNING TO ALL BLACK FOLKS:
If you haven't already done so, I strongly urge you to get a 2nd source of income immediately!
Here's why:
In the midst of our mass Obama-mania, most of us really haven't thought through the repercussions of having him in the White House.
1-If Sen. Obama is elected, the days of crying to White folks about racism will be OVER. They won't entertain that anymore. After all, racism can't be that bad if there's been a Black (sort-of) president elected. This is a problem because we don't have a collective Plan B. Our entire strategy (such as it is) revolves around protesting racism.
2-I firmly believe that this economy is going to crash. I also believe that the powers that be have been mitigating & concealing the full extent of the damage to protect George W's image. They won't extend the same favor to Obama if he's elected. In fact, they'll be sure to let all of the rotten economic eggs drop to the ground on his watch. [To make sure that he gets the blame for the past 8 years of fiscal mismanagement & crime.] This is why everybody needs a side hustle. Right now. Being totally dependent on a single (more fragile than you realize) paycheck is courting disaster.
3-When the full extent of the economic disaster hits, help WON'T be on the way from an Obama Administration. At least, not for Black folks. A Pres. Obama will feel the need to prove to White folks that he's not partial to Black people or our problems. Given our hypnotic support for him, the masses of Black folks won't even scream out while he ignores us. Our elders will quietly start eating dog food instead of groceries. They'll quietly go without medication that they can no longer afford. Many of us will quietly go without heat during the winter. And they'll want YOU to suffer quietly too! After all, "we" gotta support the "brother." You won't get any support from other Black folks for crying out (or making any noise at all) during an Obama Administration. Don't let this scenario happen to you or your loved ones. Get ready. Get prepared. ASAP.
Peace, blessings and solidarity."
SELF LOVE~ SELF ACCEPTANCE~ SELF RESPECT
Wednesday, August 27, 2008
...so...really, super, quickly...
i know this is random.
i tend to be this way from time to time:-)
this bugger of a thought has been stuck in my head for awhile now...
...all of you folks that couldn't/wouldn't shut up about darfur, why are you now talking to me about the olympics?
??????
duh?! i am not watching the olympics this time around! maybe they can hold the next one in the congo or iraq?
i am not trying to be funny, i am just saying...
SELF LOVE~SELF ACCEPTANCE~SELF RESPECT
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