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Wednesday, November 5, 2008

putting it in perspective




i am tickled pink! long ago, i consoled myself with this possible upside. there is always an upside!


at the very least, black males and others will be hard pressed to "joke" about black women in the white house and as impediments to success now.


as the clowns "joked" about Michelle in the white house, when black, i allowed myself to excuse them. i found empathy and compassion in the realization that their poor little enslaved minds just would not allow them to see in their minds eye what they've not been shown consistently in the media---many examples of regal, educated, classy black women. in their little minds we don't exist, much less deserve to be featured in prominent places. especially not those that look undeniably, no need to stare black. (yes! i said it, it is true! i don't believe Mr. President elect would wear such a title had he been born to two parents that looked like his father in hue and features. but that's just me and beside the point.)


i am tickled pink that there will be a black woman and two little black girls in the white house!


i pray that his Oness does a great job; otherwise i fully expect for it to somehow be widely accepted as Michelle's fault. sound familiar?


in the interim, i will enjoy the images and hope that Michelle brings as many black women with her as she can. black wardrobe stylist, black hairstylist, black chef, black secretaries, black assistants...


OMG, i just described a nightmare for some americans! lol!



self love~ self acceptance~ self respect

33 comments:

Anonymous said...

at the very least, black males and others will be hard pressed to "joke" about black women in the white house and as impediments to success now.

No they won't and you know why? Because they are JOKES. Jokes are not meant to be taken seriously. They are meant to cause laughter. Just like they joked about Hillary. Just like they joked about Bush REPEATEDLY. Just like they joked about McCain and Palin.

Chris Rock doesn't know Michelle Obama and didn't proclaim to know her. He made a joke based on a generalization that is in turn based on common observation, that observation being that black women have a greater tendency to not be able to take a back seat to their men and must be right in the middle of things if not in the forefront.

i am tickled pink that there will be a black woman and two little black girls in the white house!

Does this mean that you care not that there will be a black man there?

i pray that his Oness does a great job; otherwise i fully expect for it to somehow be widely accepted as Michelle's fault. sound familiar?

So it's all about her? It is not uncommon among black women to take an "it's all about me" attitude. Ultimately he will get the blame for his shortcomings and rightfully so just as black men get the blame for all of the black community's shortcomings and black women have difficulty accepting fault for anything.

in the interim, i will enjoy the images and hope that Michelle brings as many black women with her as she can. black wardrobe stylist, black hairstylist, black chef, black secretaries, black assistants...

And black men can't fill any of these roles?

OMG, i just described a nightmare for some americans! lol!

Seems that black MEN filling any of these roles will be a nightmare for you.

Anonymous said...

fp,
I've been feeding myself with your blog since early spring... you still tell it very straight...no chaser! I love the skewed humor. You've impacted my life in a profound way...and I'm greatful and apologetic to you and "Bee See S" at the same time. You're powerful.

Thank You,
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Khadija said...

Hello there, Focused Purpose!

You've stated my sentiments exactly about all of this.

Peace, blessings and solidarity.

Anonymous said...

Welcome back Focusedpurpose. I am tickled pink by our new black first lady and two beautiful black daughters being front and center on the world stage. These beautiful ladies go a long way, in my book, to make up the for endless parade of negative stereotypes that the mainstream media likes to run about us.

Stealthkitty

focusedpurpose said...

hi anonymous-

thanks for weighing in.

here's the thing---i won't be baited by you. you're ok and i'm ok, we just don't agree nor do we have to.

it seems by your comment that you think you can afford to refuse to acknowledge that there is an assault on black women and girls. i don't have such a "luxury".

you may choose to ignore that there is a hatred of black women cloaked as "humor" if you wish. i won't try to convince you otherwise.

please consider that this blog may not be for you. if you read what i have written about me, who i am, and my focused purpose; you will have to see that this blog is dedicated to black WOMEN and GIRLS. because i am a giver, let me help you. i wrote clearly the following:

"...without apology, i, will lift my voice and work passionately for the upliftment of black women and girls in this country and around the world; for it is abundantly clear that if we are to have value---we must bestow it upon ourselves."

that's pretty clear to me. i won't try to make it any clearer for you.

in growth, i will resist the urge to point out the many "observations" that black males could "joke" about regarding black males; especially the collective.

recently a blogger that i greatly respect gave very wise advice that i will apply now. i will choose only to focus my energies on those that get it or WANT to get it. the rest i will leave as i found them. life is about choices. your comment does not put you in the category of one that gets it or wants to, so i bid you a peaceful journey.

in all sincerity,
focusedpurpose

focusedpurpose said...

allow me to clarify.

my comment was for anonymous November 5, 2008 8:22AM.

i just realized that there was another Anonymous visiting:-)

blessings,
focusedpurpose

focusedpurpose said...

hi there Anonymous november 5, 2008 9:43 am!

welcome. thanks for your kind words. we all have greater power than we realize and wield. it is my prayer that others will be inspired to do something to change their world. if we all did that, all of our world would be better.

you said:

...apologetic to you and "Bee See S" at the same time...

what does that mean? i want to understand what you meant:-)

thanks for stopping in. you are welcome at any time.

blessings,
focusedpurpose

focusedpurpose said...

hi Khadija:-)

peas in a pod!

blessings sis,
focusedpurpose

focusedpurpose said...

welcome back Stealthkitty-

yes i agree! i am happy for what is truly the upside for me.

blessings,
focusedpurpose

All-Mi-T [Thought Crime] Rawdawgbuffalo said...

no night mare folk, i just hope the red states
dont desire to return to the history pre 1960

Felicity said...

Michelle is a beautiful woman, she has beautiful daughters and may God bless them, guide them in every way!

focusedpurpose said...

hi T and welcome back:-)

i have seen throughout this campaign season the writing on the wall. i am afraid, historical echoes have been hard to miss for those of us that pay attention. because i don't want to rain on the happy negro parade, i am focused on preparing for the poop storm that is well umderway. it is going to be a smelly mess when the other shoe drops.

welcome back Felicity!

to your comment i say...AMEN!

blessings,
focusedpurpose

focusedpurpose said...

ooops, i meant uNderway! lol!

Anonymous said...

Ooooh this is the perfect place for me to talk about my experience with an acquaintance yesterday.

Before I start, let me say that I have NOTHING against non-BW in general. I'm just sharing a very disappointing reaction of someone who I know doesn't represent ALL non-BW.

This girl, an hispanic acquaintance of mine, had NEVER talked about Michelle during the campaign. She always stated she supported Obama 100%. Now I never "desperately" expected for her to say anything about Michelle, I didn't need for her to praise her or anything, not like she owed it to me or anyone, so that never bothered me. I'm just stating, she NEVER brought up Michelle......UNTIL yesterday.

She told me yesterday that Michelle was UGLY and dressed up like an OLD A** LADY, NO STYLE NO CLASS. She went on saying, in front of a few other people (who acted like they weren't paying attention) that when she sees this gorgeous man with ugly Michelle, she's thinking it COULD HAVE BEEN HER instead of that ugly broad. Mind you, that chick looks like a slim Ugly Betty and wears huge glasses, and even SHE thinks she's better than Michelle. She went on saying that Michelle didn't really do anything (aka lazy good for nothing chick) and her WEAVE was a HOT mess (and when I told her it wasn't a weave, she told me it LOOKED LIKE AN AWFUL WIG). Don't worry about this, cause I handled the situation with class, I defended Michelle (without acting like a "fanatic"), I was sarcastic and replied back with intelligence, and she ended up looking like a fool, cause I PULLED A MICHELLE OBAMA ON HER BUTT and put her in her place First Lady style. She was pissed the Fck off. I savored the moment, but at the same time I was disappointed in her reaction.

Goes to show that some people don't LIKE seeing a BW as the 1st Lady. Oh no, we're not WORTH the best in their eyes. And that wasn't even from a strange woman, that was from an acquaintance that I hoped would be a "friend" in the future cause we got along so well. But Michelle being in the SPOTLIGHT with Mr President, Barack calling this bona fide woman his BEST FRIEND, THE ROCK OF THEIR FAMILY, obviously HURT my acquaintance's EGO. Some people (specifically many non-BW & BM) WISH Barack's wife was non-black. And that's the reason why it's so powerful and symbolic, because this man didn't choose a woman like his mother the way mixed men generally do, otherwise there would have NEVER been a BW (and 2 little BLACK GIRLS) in the White House.

I truely thank Barack for choosing this class act for the impact it's going to have on BW and black girls. We can be Princesses like Angela Brown, AND We can ALSO be 1st Ladies like Michelle Obama! We DESERVE the very best the world has to offer too!!!

focusedpurpose said...

hi and welcome Lola-

i have heard the same sentiments. i have pretty much summed it up with my observation that only those that are not regularly around white skin worship it. his O-ness doesn't suffer from this affliction because his MOTHER was in white skin.

@ the end of the day, it has become really clear to me that black women are positioned to make even greater strides. it is imperative that we don't waste too much time dealing with those that are hanging onto the sad notion that by virtue of their melanin deficiency they are somehow superior.

the reality is, folks know the truth. we must focus on those black women and girls that do not know the truth of who they are because they have absorbed so many lies and non-sense along the way.

if we were so bad, would other women try so hard to emulate us? some black males to diminish us to the world?

i say no.

i am committed to being focused and purposeful. good for you for calling the idiot on her idiocy in lady-like fashion. on a certain level, i feel bad for her; that is ALL she can come up with to make herself feel better? pitiful indeed.

on a positive note. a brother paid me the ultimate compliment today. he said hi to me and called me "first lady". i was tickled pink. in some minds, the image will make a difference! for others, they are lost and best considered reprobate.

thanks for stopping in sis.

blessings,
focusedpurpose

Anonymous said...

Good Morning Focusedpurpose.

I predicted this long ago on an Afro Latina's blog: This century belongs to Black women.
By God's Will, we are going to shine and receive surmountable blessings.

One thing, I just want Black women to stop wasting our time talking about those who hate us.

I travel a lot.I have been noticing a lot of wealthy non-Black men choosing Black women as wives.



Barack Obama is not a fool.He certainly was not brainwashed in terms of selecting a woman.
He recognized that a good and intelligent woman is priceless.

President elect Barack Obama looks confident, manly and powerful beside Michelle Obama.

Black men who show up with non-Black women appear very insecure, effeminate and weak.

Michelle Obama and her two little girls are exquisitely beautiful.

Michelle Obama has grace, charm, poise,beauty, intelligence and many more lovely qualities.She has definitely helped Barack Obama become president of the United States.

Un cordial abrazo(A cordial embrace),
Ana

focusedpurpose said...

welcome Ana!

yes, it is not hard to see that bw will rise. i think this is why the assault has been/is so merciless.

i, too, see the shift in consciousness with non black men and bw. in my personal experience even. there is nothing, it seems more appealing to quality men than a woman that carries herself with love, self acceptance, and self respect:-)

you said:

"One thing, I just want Black women to stop wasting our time talking about those who hate us."

Ana i can agree with that assertion at times. there are bw that LOVE to lament bm and the non stop assaults. these women go in search of these fools---ytubing it up until they feel down. ???!!! in this instance, i agree wholeheartedly with your position.

however, there are times when one MUST stand up, speak out, and do all in their power to shut down the nonsense.

i have long held the belief that typically two things go away if you ignore them...your teeth and your friends. the rest of the time, as far as i can see, neglected issues have babies. so, i will speak out and support those other sisters that are from a healthy space doing the same:-)

a cordial hug back to you sis. thanks for stopping in.

blessings,
focusedpurpose

Anonymous said...

First I should mention how happy I am that you are blogging again. To be honest, I think that there is more admiration for First Lady Obama than we think. From what I'm told, she's already a hit in Europe. I don't mean to sound like a broken record, but don't give too much thought to negative black males or anyone else for that matter. Black women have much to be proud of.

Faith at Acts of Faith Blog said...

I am looking forward to the next 4-8! Sasha and Malia are going to be wonderful young women. You know I almost feel sorry for Chris Rock because his political commentary is spot on, but he really doesn't think very highly of himself despite his career success and marriage. Too bad though because he dissed Michelle! And other BW.

roslynholcomb said...

I will continue to defend Madame Obama to the best of my ability. She inspires me to want to be a better person, to emulat the type of black woman she is.

These so-called comedians are full of it and they know it. If Wanda Sykes said a black man could never be president because they're too busy holding their junk to get anything done there would've been a major uprising.

I too believe that we should ignore those who hate us. Ignore them right out of the box office. We have to stand up and say NO MORE. We will not tolerate, nor support such foolishness. I won't even take my child to see Madagascar because he's in it. I will do anything in my power to end his career posthaste.

Khadija said...

@Lola:

Expect more & more haters to come out of the woodwork as more Black women take our rightful place on the world stage.

Eventually, the haters will get over it. Or not. I really don't care. I'm moving forward.

Peace, blessings and solidarity.

focusedpurpose said...

hi and welcome LorMarie, Faith, and Roslyn! welcome back Khadija!:-)

for some unknown reason, the comments are not posting the way that they should. i am by no stretch a techie, plus i have been too busy to worry about it. i do apologize for the delay in posting, though. i just "discovered" that your comments were there. i will take some time and figure out what is different some time this week.

thanks for visiting all of you. your comments are insightful and grow me in so many ways. know that you are welcome any time.

@LorMarie, i am working on balancing my life, so my posts will be less frequent i am afraid. you should know though, that blogging and entering the blogosphere has saved my life. it is such a blessing to fellowship with such smart, progressive, well read, outspoken women. (and righteous men:-) i love to learn, and i have learned SO much. i am not going anywhere any time soon.

blessings all,
focusedpurpose

Felicity said...

Michelle is such a wonderful role model, intelligent, elegant, and very beautiful.

PVW said...

Focused Purpose:

i have heard the same sentiments. i have pretty much summed it up with my observation that only those that are not regularly around white skin worship it. his O-ness doesn't suffer from this affliction because his MOTHER was in white skin.


My reply:

Glad also, to see you posting. I think it also goes deeper than that. I give his mother's family credit, that they raised him to become the man he is today, but I can't help but wonder about what it meant to him to be a young black man in an all-white family, with no connection to the blackness he saw in the mirror each day, since his black father abandoned him.

Perhaps he wanted a connection to that blackness in marrying and having a family with a black woman who is his complement in accomplishment, dignity and grace.

More power to him!

Anonymous said...

I am TICKLED PINK that we will now have THREE intelligent, beautiful Black women in the White House! The lovely Michelle as first lady, and the charming, adorable Sasha & Malia as the first daughters! And you know what else? I am also happy that having THREE lovely Black women in the White House is going to piss off and hurt these trifling litlle non-Black women who think they are so much better than us because their stupid beloved Black men prefer them to us. Well to all of those stupid women I say a big HAHA to their faces Nelson from the Simpson style! HAHA to all you hater non-Black women and the clown, broke-down, useless Black men who want you! There are SISTAS in the White House now and NOT you, HAHA!

Anonymous said...

Lola, with all due respect, your reaction to that stupid woman and your re-counting of the incident to us here are part of the problem that we sistas have it so hard. First, you are falling all over yourself to tell us how you have nothing against non-BW (You seem to forget that A LOT of them have something against we Black women) and that you do not think "ALL" non-bw are like that (Well news flash, but the simple fact is that A LOT of non-bw are like that stupid woman, whether you want to acknowledge it or not. Otherwise, why would you yourself have pointed out that MANY non-bw have a problem with Obama's wife being Black? Facts are facts, period. )

As far as you handling it with "Class", well no offense but do you think that these Black women hating non-bw really care if a sista is classy, polite, well-spoken, etc? Do you think they only dislike Black females who are "Ghetto"? (I have NO problem with URBAN Black women, so I think critisicm of them in BW empowerment circles is very much out of line, we are ALL sistas here!) Well if you answer yes to my questions, then you are WRONG, because these non-bw hate us ALL. no matter if we are classy of "Ghetto". She hates Michelle right? These same non-bw also talk trash about and hate on Tyra, Oprah, Condi, and other Black females who are not "Ghetto". so that is why to me it is a big mistake for us to try and split the Black female nation into "Ghetto" and Non-Ghetto camps, first because we are ALL Black women, and second, because our enemies hate us ALL.

Second you felling "Sorry" for that stupid woman and other people feeling "Sorry" for stupid, trifling Black men who make horrible, anti-Bw "Jokes" about Michelle and other Black women is not going to help the issue either.

I say this in all due respect, with no intentions of offending or insulting any sista here, and becaue I firmly beleive that we sistas really need to take the gloves off and stop going by marquis of queensbury (Sp?) rules, because our enemies have declared all-out, no-holds-barred WAR on us, and are attacking us in a pure STREET FIGHT, so we need to fight fire with FIRE!

Anonymous said...

Focused purpose, you can't be serious when you say you don't think Barack Obama would have been elected had he not been half-White! Are you kidding? This country LOVES Black men, ESPECIALLY the darker, non-mixed looking ones. It is dark Black WOMEN who this country hates! This country hates ALL Black women regardless of skin color for that matter!

focusedpurpose said...

hi there-

Anonymous on December 17, 2008 @ 7:00 PM said:

"Focused purpose, you can't be serious when you say you don't think Barack Obama would have been elected had he not been half-White! Are you kidding? This country LOVES Black men, ESPECIALLY the darker, non-mixed looking ones. It is dark Black WOMEN who this country hates! This country hates ALL Black women regardless of skin color for that matter!"


i say:

welcome or welcome back Anonymous.

i can't tell if you have visited before. your tone i don't recognize. i am not sure if you are just feeling heated or what. @ any rate, do know that i am very serious.

when i say that had his O-ness been born to a woman that was the same hue as his father, he would not have been pouts/potus-elect. i thought about that statement PRIOR to making it. i stand strongly and seriously by that statement. i believe it to be the truth. when i look back and see the other black folks, with no white women in the mix, that have run for potus---yep, history supports the statement; this so called "love" of black men notwithstanding.

for the record, i don't see a "love" of black men. i see black men being used to denigrate themselves, their women and children for the most part; all for pennies in the big picture. or for entertainment value, sex, or something else non threatening to the status quo. rarely, are they depicted as men. this "love" is merely the re-packaged millenium version of black men as mindless, criminal, sexual beasts. i don't know that i would call that love.

aside from that, i don't know that we disagree so very much in our positions. i am simply saying that america has greater fondness for the so-called blacks born to white or other women. obviously black women's children, not so much. quite a few black men themselves, want nothing to do with the children born to black women that look obviously black. let's get serious for a moment...

in fact, the more i think about it, we are not saying anything different at all. we are simply saying it differently:-)

thanks for your comments. thanks for visiting. please know that you are welcome anytime.

blessings,
focusedpurpose

Anonymous said...

Focused purpose, I disagree with you about Black males being "Used", and nor do I think they are the victims in this. I think if you asked a majority of Americans of all races, and Europeans too for that matter what their opinions of Black males were, they would be majority positive. If you asked these same groups their opinions of Black females, their opinions would be majority negative. Black males can get away with being "Ghetto". Can Black females? Black males can get away with shoving their sexuality in everyone's faces. Can Black females? Black males can get away with hating White males. Can Black females get away with hating White females? Those are just a FEW of many examples!

To use your own words, let's get serious for a moment, and to do that, we need to stop the nonsense and acknowledge once and for all that this country treats Black males MUCH better than it does Black females, and it also thinks that they are worth more/better than us, and it does this in a way that has NOTHING to do with how it deals with White females and White males, so no "Sexism/White male power structure" talk either please.

focusedpurpose said...

hi Anonymous-

i apologize for the delay in my response.

a point of agreement:

black, obviously black, women have never been "en vogue" and held up as the epitome of black beauty. when dark skin women show up as beautiful, they have more straight weave than is Godly and other added effects that give them a euro appearance.

yes, black, obviously black women have been routinely villanized, ostracized, dehmunanized and degraded.

points where we can agree to disagree:

dark skinned black men have also known this reality, in my lifetime. for awhile, light skin black men were ALL the rage. i have personally heard with my own ears, black women of ALL hues, verbally clamor for the "light skinned pretty boys". this so-called love affair with black, obviously black men is like parachute pants or capri pants---a trend.

i will dismiss the trends, as i do often. i will instead choose to focus on what i believe to be the truth...

...denigrating black women is a way to further denigrate black men and people. we birth the despised nation. i will not detour to indulge in the victim olympics.

black people are allowing ourselves to be exploited and destroyed. these days at the hands of other black(ish) people primarily. without apology, i focus on black women and girls and leave black men to be saved by conscious, courageous, righteous, hard working, vigilant black men.

thanks for your patience and the exchange.

blessings,
focusedpurpose

Anonymous said...

Focused purpose, I think you are right about us having to agree to disagree. You care about Black women, girls, and males, I care ONLY for Black women and girls. You also however concentrate on Black women and girls, and that we have in common. On that we find common ground. I simply disagree that being dark for Black males is a problem for Black males at all, let alone even being a problem for them like it is for Black females, I also disagree that to point out that the Black female is the TRUE victim of 21st century White racism in America is indulging in victim olympics, and finally I disagree that this same hatred of Black females on the part of certain elementes in 21st century White America is a way to attack Black males. I think it is focused (No pun intended lol) like a laser beam squarely on us, while these same elements enjoy their Will Smith movies and cheer at Lebron James while listening to Jay-Z. They KNOW what they are doing, and they KNOW who they hate, and it AINT no Black males.

So I will agree to disagree with you on those points and continue to support you on your mission to help Black women and girls, for that is also my mission. I look forward to your further writings on this most important subject, and I thank you for your grace, charm, and civility in out debate.

Lots of love my sista.

Anonymous said...

First, you are falling all over yourself to tell us how you have nothing against non-BW (You seem to forget that A LOT of them have something against we Black women) and that you do not think "ALL" non-bw are like that (Well news flash, but the simple fact is that A LOT of non-bw are like that stupid woman, whether you want to acknowledge it or not. Otherwise, why would you yourself have pointed out that MANY non-bw have a problem with Obama's wife being Black? Facts are facts, period. )

Just because MANY have this problem, doesn't mean ALL have it. And quite frankly, why do some sistas waste their energy being at war with ALLLLL the non black women when these chicks egos got huge because of BLACK MEN putting them on a pedestal to begin with. That's the ROOT of the problem. Have the courage to point the finger at DBR Black Men FIRST. These women didn't get on a pedestal BY THEMSELVES. Yes this chick acted stupid and is a fool but that won't make me a hater to ALLLLLL non black women. Why would I give her this power? I will not hate a whole group of people based on foolish behaviors of many, especially because I have great non black friends, who aren't shady or sneaky, but tell it like it is. We can't be mad at people stereotyping us and then do THE EXACT THING that we don't want for ourselves. Guess what, MANY WHITE MEN too are racist, does that mean I can't date one and that I should be mad at all of them??? DOES THAT MAKE ME THE PROBLEM AGAIN?? COME ON!

As far as you handling it with "Class", well no offense but do you think that these Black women hating non-bw really care if a sista is classy, polite, well-spoken, etc? Do you think they only dislike Black females who are "Ghetto"? (I have NO problem with URBAN Black women, so I think critisicm of them in BW empowerment circles is very much out of line, we are ALL sistas here!) Well if you answer yes to my questions, then you are WRONG, because these non-bw hate us ALL.

Well, YOU MISSED THE POINT OF MY "CLASS" ARGUMENT. The point wasn't to "prove" that they like or dislike bw, it was to show that I put her in her place without losing my cool which is what she was trying to make me do. When people attacked Michelle Obama, SHE KEPT IT CLASSY instead of losing it - because the GOAL of the media was to make her LOSE HER COOL. Same with my acquaintance. I didn't fall for her trap, SHE ENDED UP BEING EMBARRASSED IN FRONT OF EVERYONE instead of me (which was HER plan) and her whole plan backfired on her, because I kept my cool and handled it like a chief. And I didn't have my image ruined at work because of her arrogance and ignorance like she wanted me to. That was the POINT of me talking about keeping it classy.

Second you felling "Sorry" for that stupid woman and other people feeling "Sorry" for stupid, trifling Black men who make horrible, anti-Bw "Jokes" about Michelle and other Black women is not going to help the issue either.

It was FAITH who said she felt sorry, but anyway I AGREE with her. That hispanic woman is envious and insecure. Wesley Snipes dissed bw, where is HE career-wise? Did he go as far as Denzel and Will? Chris Rock is falling off. And what's going to help the issue? Me crying over this stupid broad and bw bashing black men??? Or me bashing ALL NON BLACK WOMEN AND ALL BLACK MEN "in return"? As if that's not gonna make me look EQUALLY STUPID. Listen, I never said I supported the haters, feeling "sorry" doesn't mean SUPPORTING, it means you're bigger than THEM. I cut ties with the hispanic woman, I don't give money to Wesley or Chris Rock but I DO FEEL SORRY FOR THEM, you can only pity those idiots. I won't lose sleep over those fools they are INSIGNIFICANT and UNHAPPY. I can only PITY and FEEL SORRY FOR people who fetishize and ARE fetishized, all in the name of their pathetic egos. Their egos are proportional to their insecurities. I can only feel sorry for them because humanly speaking they're toxic and poisonous, to others but TO THEMSELVES FIRST, when people showcase so much ignorance it REFLECTS THEIR MISERY.

I say this in all due respect, with no intentions of offending or insulting any sista here, and becaue I firmly beleive that we sistas really need to take the gloves off and stop going by marquis of queensbury (Sp?) rules, because our enemies have declared all-out, no-holds-barred WAR on us, and are attacking us in a pure STREET FIGHT, so we need to fight fire with FIRE!

I'm one of the most passionate BLACK WOMEN DEFENDERS you could know. But I tell you this : if you're gonna be at war, at least be at WAR on the people WHO ARE AGAINST YOU, NOT EVERY SINGLE NON BLACK WOMAN!!! I know non black women who support their brothers dating black women, or non black mother-in-laws who defend their sons interracial romance with sistas. SHYT, BARACK's MOTHER LIKED MICHELLE! So be careful. After all, ALL BLACK WOMEN ARENT FOR THE SISTERS' CAUSE. Your ENEMY could very well be a black woman aka DBRBM ENABLER. Skin color doesn't make someone your enemy or friend, ACTIONS do.

Anonymous said...

T-Star say's

Let's not focus on the negitive things people say about women of color, their living there life happy, were focusing on there nasty thoughts.